Still not sure if I am speaking to you?
Question...How easily do you ask/receive help from others?
How often do you freeze in action and fear rocking the boat?
If you answer is "I don't" and/or "Often"... believe me I understand! I have been on my own since I was 17, and the only regret I have is not asking for help sooner. I thought I had to prove myself by continuing to go at it alone or I wouldn't be enough. Or worse I would be kicked out of my tribe for speaking up.
When our needs are not met as children we develop coping mechanisms in order to survive. And while strength is a wonderful quality to have, you never truly get what you want or need to thrive . Our belief systems are established by the age of 10! If you didn't have a solid foundation then it is likely that you don't have the tools to create one now.
So what do strong women do? They adapt...you have tried to conform to societies’ box to gain happiness, but it feels false and empty. And many tend to stifle their True Voice, and hide their pain to protect yourself from rejection.
But you don't feel safe and never truly have.
You have tried everything to find security if not happiness... but wake in panic every morning. Your anxiety has robbed you of your health and well-being.
I know the trauma you've experienced is a big factor, but you did what you had to do to and moved on. You have survived in a way that society deems worthy and is necessary to succeed in life.
You worked to gain that success and sacrificed yourself for your career, your mate, your kids, your family and friends. Sacrificed your time, your dreams, your health and well-being, as you felt you had no choice.
Your critical voice has become so loud and cruel it has begun to sabotage the success you worked so hard to achieve.
You have convinced everyone you are strong, confident, and a survivor until the end...but you know that you are dying inside.
You know there is so much more to life than this. You know because you have seen it in other people.
They too have experienced trauma and pain yet they seem to glow, and you crave to shine as they do.
Here's what I want you to know…
• You are worthy of the security and happiness you crave. You are more than enough and deserve to feel whole...deserve to be seen.
• You are lovely under the mask you wear. You will experience the connection you have longed for you once you find the courage to shine through it.
• There is so much more to life than achieving goals and surviving trauma. Your dreams are waiting for you. I can teach you how to achieve them and that radiant glow you desire...